YOU DESERVE AN HONEST RITUAL
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Honest Rituals origin story Pricing for new rituals, weddings, and shadow weddings |
The ceremony was rich with resonance and intention. I was given the space, protection, respect, and ultimately the safety to focus entirely on revealing and releasing old and private pain. I am still feeling the changes and consequences from this sacred experience; I may never stop. – Jessica |
What is Honest Rituals?
Honest Rituals is the part of my work where I make rituals with and for people.
Rituals are powerful. They reach deep inside of us to discover what is most true and put that truth into action that changes our lives.
I have crafted rituals for weddings and kindergarten graduations, for processing emotions before a major surgery and for healing from childhood trauma.
Wherever you are on your journey, whether you know exactly what you want or just have a niggling feeling that you need something, I would love to work with you to create your own Honest Ritual!
And while I am Christian, I make no assumptions that you are. I am happy to work with people of any or no faith tradition.
Rituals are powerful. They reach deep inside of us to discover what is most true and put that truth into action that changes our lives.
I have crafted rituals for weddings and kindergarten graduations, for processing emotions before a major surgery and for healing from childhood trauma.
Wherever you are on your journey, whether you know exactly what you want or just have a niggling feeling that you need something, I would love to work with you to create your own Honest Ritual!
And while I am Christian, I make no assumptions that you are. I am happy to work with people of any or no faith tradition.
Honest Rituals Origin Story
I am not perfect. My marriage is not perfect.
But Honest Rituals was born out of my experience of our wedding.
We met at a bookclub (yes, really, and no, that’s not code for “Tinder”) called Weird and Wonderful. We became good friends, started dating, and had our first conversation about getting married two weeks later.
After a respectable period of time, we decided to go for it. But there were some big questions. I am a Christian, and a pastor to boot. He is an Atheist.
What does a wedding ceremony look like, for two people with such different relationships to ritual?
I didn’t want him to grit his teeth and nod through something that he didn’t believe in. He didn’t want me to strip our wedding of the things that gave my life meaning.
We wanted our wedding to be honest.
And so we worked hard, together with my dad (a pastor who officiated the service) to create a wedding that was honest for both of us. No teeth were gritted; no faith ignored.
We made honest promises to each other and our community, and we were honestly seen by our community. The power of the ceremony was profound, and though it only lasted an hour we continue to be empowered years later.
To be seen in the truth of who we are and what we hope to be together; to be recognized in our expansiveness and our particularity; to feel loved and supported in our wholeness: these are the gifts of an honest ritual.
These are the gifts I want to give to others.
Because we all deserve an honest ritual.
Offerings
New Rituals
Let's make something new together! Whatever you are going through, I am here to work with you to create an Honest Ritual that will serve your need.
Examples:
For a postpartum parent
For beginning addiction recovery
For gender affirmation
$300 + travel and lodging, if required
Examples:
For a postpartum parent
For beginning addiction recovery
For gender affirmation
$300 + travel and lodging, if required
Weddings
Whether it's a blow-out party or an intimate gathering, let's make your wedding Honest!
We will meet a few times, and I'll work with you to create a full plan for your wedding ceremony. I'll work with your venue and tech support to get on the same page, creating a "cue book" to make sure the right mics are on at the right moments, and running the rehearsal. Day-of, I'll make sure everything runs smoothly as we do the thing!
$800–$1000 + travel and lodging, if required
We will meet a few times, and I'll work with you to create a full plan for your wedding ceremony. I'll work with your venue and tech support to get on the same page, creating a "cue book" to make sure the right mics are on at the right moments, and running the rehearsal. Day-of, I'll make sure everything runs smoothly as we do the thing!
$800–$1000 + travel and lodging, if required
Shadow Weddings
There’s a lot of hype about the wedding day as “the best day of your life.” It’s sold to us as a bright, happy celebration of love. This bright side is true, but it’s not the whole truth.
Marriage is messy, with a painful, shadowed history and a boatload of assumptions about who and how we ought to be. Marriage is messy because humans are messy, bringing our shadows, as well as our best qualities, into our relationships.
The bright happy wedding celebration glosses over this shadowed side. At most, it allows for a funny line in the vows about how “I’ll love you even if you leave your smelly socks on the floor.”
A Shadow Wedding offers a chance to face the shadows. To face the whole truth of who we are, and revel in joyful honesty.
Instead of getting all dolled up and focusing on the bright side, a Shadow Wedding shines a light into the shadowed corners. We name the things we don’t want in our marriage but that will inevitably creep in, the things that are a part of any complicated and complex human life.
The shadows have power only if they dominate us. If we greet them by name, calling them out of the corners to acknowledge and talk to them, we release their power over us.
What shadows do you need to name? What spirits do you need to cast out of your life and relationships? Who do you need to have on your side as you make this vulnerable and intimate step?
As an add-on to your wedding: $150
Standalone event: $300 + travel and lodging, if required
Marriage is messy, with a painful, shadowed history and a boatload of assumptions about who and how we ought to be. Marriage is messy because humans are messy, bringing our shadows, as well as our best qualities, into our relationships.
The bright happy wedding celebration glosses over this shadowed side. At most, it allows for a funny line in the vows about how “I’ll love you even if you leave your smelly socks on the floor.”
A Shadow Wedding offers a chance to face the shadows. To face the whole truth of who we are, and revel in joyful honesty.
Instead of getting all dolled up and focusing on the bright side, a Shadow Wedding shines a light into the shadowed corners. We name the things we don’t want in our marriage but that will inevitably creep in, the things that are a part of any complicated and complex human life.
The shadows have power only if they dominate us. If we greet them by name, calling them out of the corners to acknowledge and talk to them, we release their power over us.
What shadows do you need to name? What spirits do you need to cast out of your life and relationships? Who do you need to have on your side as you make this vulnerable and intimate step?
As an add-on to your wedding: $150
Standalone event: $300 + travel and lodging, if required
Photography by Ezlan Powers Fine Art Photography
